So today was a day that will go down in the annuls of history.
Today Friday, June 26, 2015 the Supreme Court ruled 5-4 that gay marriage is now legal.
And I'm supposed to be happy. At least that's what everyone tells me. I'm young and so therefore I must be jumping up and down at this huge step for love.
I just feel more like the it's still soaking in and I can't quite believe it. Instead of realizing how historic it is and being blown away by it, I'm just walking around like it hasn't soaked in, feeling like it's Freaky Friday.
I mean I guess the family members can come out of the closet now... but were they really in the closet? Maybe they came out a long time ago. I mean I knew about it when I was like a teenager. And I never heard of them really hiding it. Just more or less it was just one aspect of their multifaceted selves. Just like me wanting to speak out and help with porn addictions is one aspect of my life I'm not ashamed of, it taught me a lot, but I don't generally go around discussing it and saying it's everything that makes me, me.
But then ya know most would just call me a a big headed bigot for saying those last few sentences I guess.
I mean I'm a young person and this is about love they tell me. I should totally understand.
And that's where I'm really ticked off. I do totally understand.
See when did we decide to let the government tell us who and what we can love? If the Supreme Court ruled tonight that I couldn't love my dog I still totally would. Or if they told me I had to hate all Italians, I'd still love my friends of Italian descent.
See, this isn't about love. This is about law. I'm not here to dictate to anyone who they should or shouldn't love or hate. And the government shouldn't be either.
They were ruling about the law not our love lives.
A law about whether or not kids should have a parent of both sexes. A law about whether people should be forced to perform ceremonies against their wills or not. A law about forcing people, all people - families, schools, businesses - to conform to teaching and viewing a family in a whole different light.
And while it's all very well for me to make whatever choice I want about my love life and you to make whatever choice you want about your love life... I think it's unfair to make that choice for someone else too. Like the kids. They have rights too. It's my personal opinion that the helpless, the underage, and weaker of society should actually have more rights protecting their liberties than us who are over legal age. We are called "responsible adults" for a reason. Yes, I'm very weird like that. I think they should be allowed to have a chance, an opportunity to interact with a man and a woman figure in their early lives. Then if they want to later make the choice to be heterosexual or homosexual it's their choice. But I will fight for the right that they should at least have a chance to interact with a mom and a dad as a female and male. They have a right to an opportunity of experiencing two very different types of parents - male and female. This is not a right we can just take from them because it would make it more convenient for us.
Yes, I'm very bizarre like that.
Shout at me. Tell me how unfeeling I am. But don't accuse me of taking away your rights because I believe no one should tell anyone who or what they should love. Except for God. And I'm not God. Neither are you for that matter. I just think the kids should get that right. Because I've seen the grown up products of those kids that didn't. Because I've read and listened to their voices. Because this isn't about what I want as a full grown, able to fend for myself, adult. The bone I'm picking has to do with the ones that are not full grown and cannot fend for themselves but are subject to being affected by whatever our whims, now backed by government sanction, can do.
On a side note, I also think that someone performing ceremonies should retain the right to only perform those they feel comfortable performing. I think someone who has grown up being forbidden to harbor homosexual sentiments suddenly forced to perform a ceremony that every fiber of their being disagrees with is not establishing freedom but rather putting one's freedom above another's.
And I think we should all be given grace, mercy, and the benefit of the doubt if we don't understand each other's excitement or aversion to the ruling today.
I know where I stand. I know why - the thought process, the rationality, the moral ground, and the emotion - that has led me to this position. I do not judge you if your position is different from mine.
But please, please, please in the name of equality and justice and rights for all, don't accuse me of digging my nose in your personal business and saying the law should dictate you can't love who you want when you want. I am only arguing that the law should never throw out one set of people's rights for another group's rights. And that is precisely what we are doing with this act. And what we did with Roe v. Wade. In each case, we're throwing out the rights of the weak and the underage and the ones with the littlest strength in their voices due to their youth and station in life in the name of equality.
There is no new equality now. There is just a swap of freedoms. The children will not be able to argue for many years now. Or they will be stifled out of respect for their parents or loved ones. Or drowned by the media's attention to making sure only "politically correct" victims are allowed to go viral. Because lets face it, victims speaking out make us awkward. Especially, ones we'd rather not face exist. I know. I've been a victim.
Dear Rainbow Flag constituent, I'm sorry you were wronged, are wronged. I'm sorry you have suffered pain. I really am. And as you cross my path I will not shove you away. I will love you in Christ. I will accept you as an equal human being deserving of treatment, love, and respect as such whether or not we agree on all issues.
But please my fellow victim if you have been victimized, stripped of rights or terribly wronged, for I too am a victim of abuse although perhaps for different reasons, see that there are victims on every side.
And I will always take the quietest, most suppressed side. I will always take the children's side no matter what I personally may desire for myself. I am a teacher, a tutor, a children's advocate. Whether that's fighting the abuse of a physically abusive father, bandaging the wounds of a broken home, or advocating for each child to have an opportunity at having two different sex parents, I'll be there fighting that battle.
Please join me, constituents of both flags. Please join me in reaching out to the children, in giving them a better life. In making laws that will protect what is in their best interests even if they go against the grain of our desires.
The law is not about what or who you love. It should be about protection and the rights of all.
P.S. if you're interested in the actual stories of real life kids, start here: http://thefederalist.com/2015/03/17/dear-gay-community-your-kids-are-hurting/
https://www.lifesitenews.com/news/quartet-of-truth-adult-children-of-gay-parents-testify-against-same-sex-mar
http://www.americanthinker.com/articles/2015/06/what_life_is_like_when_children_of_gay_couples_dont_matter.html#.VaAk7ak0t8o.twitter
http://cnsnews.com/news/article/lauretta-brown/adults-raised-gay-couples-speak-out-against-gay-marriage-federal-court
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